The Language of Deep Forgiveness

Dr. Allen’s book reveals how the precise language you use to think about forgiveness in your mind affects how deeply you actually forgive in your heart and the level of freedom you experience. It shows you how to resolve the Acceptance Conundrum, a common block to forgiveness in which we are left unable to accept the unacceptable. For some, this insightful book has been a life-changing gem. It is a taste of the more extensive work to follow. Just see the reviews below!

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“As someone who has taught about forgiveness many times, Dr. Allen gave me tools I’ve never considered to the point that I took several moments to freshly forgive several people. If you feel stuck in moving on from ways you’ve been hurt, or if you teach others how to forgive, I’m confident you’ll find fresh ways forward here.”

Dave Schmelzer

Executive Director of Blue Ocean Faith

Founding Pastor of Reservoir Church in Cambridge, MA

Author of Not the Religious Type: Confessions of a Turncoat Atheist

“As a practicing family medicine physician, I see firsthand the effects of unforgiveness on personal health and on social relationships. As an avid reader of Christian books, I also see the superficial manner in which the resolution of unforgiveness is treated, as if a simple prayer or declaration can remove the emotional burdens of unforgiveness in a moment. Dr. Allen’s book, The Language of Deep Forgiveness, uniquely supplies a thorough understanding of the subject of forgiveness, and workable steps for breaking free from the habits of unforgiveness, using psychological, theological and scientific approaches. I heartily encourage the reader to study and apply the principles contained in this excellent work, as I have done for myself and for my patients.”

John Erickson, MD

“Forgiveness, a multifaceted task that affects the very foundations of our wellness as people. The ability to forgive is not just a simple and easy exercise in saying the words, ‘I forgive.’ In his book, Dr. Allen shows us the words we use are integral to our core ability to accomplish forgiveness and be free from the chains of unforgiveness. I highly recommend that you enter into this exploration of forgiveness and learn how to address the most important aspects to yourself and finally be free of the affliction of long term offense and unforgiveness. I used his book as a study to lead myself and others into the freedom of absolute forgiveness.”

Mark Van Dyke

Executive Pastor of University Vineyard Church

“Oh no, not another book on forgiveness! I’ve read all the bestsellers on the subject and still haven’t been able to apply any of them. I tried so many times to really forgive, saying forgiveness prayers as emphatically as possible. But ultimately, I knew in my heart something was missing. I resigned myself to having repression as my lifelong friend. Then I was surprised by this wonderful book that gave me new hope and the fresh tools I needed to make several dramatic forgiveness breakthroughs that have forever changed my life. I’m so grateful for the help it provided me!”

Kathy O., L.C.S.W.

“Immensely clear and insightful! Anyone struggling with issues surrounding forgiveness would do well to start with Dr. Allen’s book.”

John Carter, PhD

Retired Professor of Clinical Psychology

Read Sample Chapters

The introduction and first two chapters are available to read here: